I can't convince my friend to stop driving under the influence of marijuana. What do I do?
Yesterday, me and a friend of mine (I’m really hoping it doesn’t turn into EX-friend of mine) got into an argument about how he likes to drive while stoned on marijuana. He’s really been getting into pot lately (I’ve been smoking it less and less, and I think it’ll get to the point where I’ve lost all interest in it). He claims that it makes his driving better when I know that’s bull ****! Anyway, I tried telling him over and over again that what he’s doing is wrong, and he could potentially kill someone. He tried to turn it around by saying that my driving is worse when I’m sober. My driving may not be perfect, but I don’t go around driving while stoned (let alone drunk), and he’s telling me that he sees nothing wrong with driving while stoned. I tried to tell him that him defending that kind of behavior is childish, but he retaliates by saying, “I’m an adult. I make my own choices. Children don’t drive.” This is coming from a 24 year old dude.
I know that he’s an adult, but what if he kills somebody while driving under the influence of pot? Now, I have nothing against pot, but I believe that if you’re gonna smoke it, you should do it RESPONSIBLY!!! I tried telling him over and over that what he’s doing is wrong, but he goes on and says that it hates it when his friends try to help and him and expect him to be perfect. I don’t expect him to be perfect, but I expect him to be a man and not act like a child. I don’t even know why acts like this. I don’t understand why he acts like this.
A lot of my other friends are telling me that I’m wasting my time with him. I’ve known this guy for years, and while he may not be the brightest person on the planet, and I always saw that he had potential to do something great and be a truly independent person (I always thought he was a slow learner and thought he needed extra time to get his life in order), but he never acted this stupid. He’s throwing his potential down the drain as I speak. Everything I tried to tell him, it tries to turn it around and make me look bad (ie, when I tell him that driving while under the influence is dangerous, he points out my driving and tells ME that I shouldn’t be talking, even though I know for a fact that I don’t drive when intoxicated or high). I feel like I’m losing a good friend because he’s allowing himself to:
1) drive while under the influence of pot
2) babble on and on and act like a child
3) slack off and do nothing but play video games all day and smoke and drink
4) babble on and on about conspiracy theories
5) Shut people out and not listen
6) repeatedly drop JC classes (I lost count how many W’s he told me he has on his record)
7) Use errors in logics when it comes to having discussions or when it comes to me (or any of my other friends) telling him that his behaviors are immature and stupid 
not get a job
9) find a way to move out of his parents house
He likes to run away from his problems and shut people out, and he’s been getting worse and worse. I can’t have a conversation with him without him talking in errors in logic; it’s as if logic or common sense does not work with his brain. And when I try to tell him that he’s acting childish and illogical, he accuses ME of being a hypocrite or tells ME that I shouldn’t be talking about driving when he believes my driving is bad.
I dont know what to do. Am I wasting my time with him? I’ve known this guy for years (he was much more on the ball than he is now), and it’s really hard for me to want to let go and get this guy out of my life because I care for him as a friend and it breaks my heart that he’s acting like this. I’m in college, I’m working on transferring to the 4 year university next year, I’m writing a book, I’m working as an English tutor, and now he’s changing in ways as if I was still in high school. I don’t know what to do.
The thing is, whenever I try to talk to him, common sense and logic does not work with his brain.
If I get hurt by him, I’ll be suing you too as being complicit and having been able to stop the event but you didn’t.
I didn’t even read all that, but based on the initial question, the answer is simple.
Call the police when you know he/she is getting behind the wheel.
Will you be able to live with yourself if your friend kills someone and you could have prevented it?
Joke: get high and kick his @$$ lol or try doing what he does but in a safe area away from cops and convince him then to quit.
Or do the right thing and talk him. if he doesnt listen then the best way is to lose him. meaning tell him the weed goes or you go and there’s no way of being friend unless he officially quits.
You can’t control what he does, but if you don’t approve of the things he does, it’s in your best interests to remove him from your life. Best of luck.
For years and years and years, many different anti-drinking and driving groups tried to find ways to get through to drivers (particularly younger drivers) about the dangers of drinking and driving. It seemed nothing worked for a variety of reasons, but one reason is that young adults and teens tend to think that they’re invincible. (”I won’t get into an accident. I won’t hurt or kill someone. I know when I’ve had too much. I’m too good.” etc.) Of course, people who think that way are wrong, but thinking that way is common among teens and 20-somethings.
Then the powers that be came up with a different idea: stress the fact that if a drunk driver gets caught, he will go to jail (and be embarrassed and maybe lose his car). Hence all those commercials on these days where a cop stops a driver and his car is filled with booze.
So the answer here, if you really care about this guy and the risk he is posing, is unfortunate but simple: call the cops. If you want, you can warn him that the next time he smokes weed and tries to get behind the wheel you will call the cops. If he does it, he does it knowing you’ll call (and he’ll be pissed that you do). Regardless, if he’s been smoking and gets behind the wheel and you can’t talk him down, do call the cops. Tell him your friend’s description, that he’s been smoking weed, the license plate number and where he’s going. You will then have taken a dangerous driver off the road. (You may lose a friend, but it seems as though he’s not really a friend these days anyway and he’s putting you in a terrible situation).
Research shows some people actually drive better while high. Drinking and Driving is the real problem. Sure if someone is new to smoking pot they shouldn’t drive while “intoxicated”. But after smoking it for a while it doesn’t have the same effects it does at first. I was given a prescription drug for depression that made me way more “intoxicated” than any pot i have ever smoked. Needless to say I don’t take that medicine anymore.
i would just have a lng talk with him and tell him what the reality would be if he got injured